“You can choose your friends but not your family”. God chooses family and He knows who is best for us.
Families once used to give up on everything just to be with one another. Nowadays, being with your family has become a liability not only on children but also on parents. During our school days we were taught a very famous saying “Families that eat together stays together” which was implemented and the whole family gathered on the dinner table every night, sharing their activities and what made them happy and how did the school, work, office go. Everyone shared how he or she felt on different topics discussed. They enjoyed the 1 or 2 hour time together that made them close.
Nowadays, family bonding is missing. Families are no fonder of eating together. They find spending time with family as an obligation which needs to be done by every member. If they have to spend time together, they use their phones, gadgets and other accessories, which obviously distracts other members who are willing to share something important or worth telling.
Children brought up under the supervision of their grandparents are more loving, caring and secured as compare to others.
The youth believes that spending time with friends is the same as spending time with family, but there are some things that only a family can teach.
Family bonding can develop in the following ways;
- Arranging parties and picnics with relatives to intensify family relationships.
- Helping children with homework.
- Playing a child’s favourite game.
- Asking opinion of children on different topics.
- Trusting every member of your family
Spending time with family teaches the following things.
- ETIQUETTES
Those who have good bonding among their families are well mannered and know all the habits of eating. They are well aware of what to talk among elders or youngsters.
- BETTER COMMUNICATION AND UNDERSTANDING
Families having good bonding. They are more likely to have better communication and understanding than those who do not.
- ART OF APPRECIATION
While spending quality time with family members, every child learns the art of appreciation in the form of telling how good the food is. Every member learns to express how nicely everything has been taken care of, how the affection of parents, grandparents and siblings helps.
- CLOSENESS
Families that have good bonding are close to each other, share everything, and keep no secrets.
According to the concerned people of this society if the family-bonding element is lost, then the child will suffer from loneliness and depression, which will harm him mentally.
The parent-child bonding can increase the level of confidence in a child and can be helpful to achieve in academic and professional grounds.
