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Behind every successful woman is herself

Nature has given women so much power that the law has very wisely given them little. Samuel Jackson.

This is a true fact which many of the males in our society will not accept.

Woman gives birth to a life. Then she nurtures it from time to time sacrificing herself and her rights. As a toddlers mother she sacrifices her sleep, dressing, and choice of food she craves to eat. She does all of it without thinking about her herself and doesn’t even want a compliment for it, whereas a father taking care of the toddler will start complaining after a while.

The duty of motherhood is performed by the woman for generations. For instance, as an elder sister she cares for her younger siblings, then caring for her children, and last of all as a grandmother. This important duty of bringing up the generation is tough and the reward she gets is of complains from the husband, son, and son in laws for from other woman, who without understanding the fact that she is a woman herself.  As quoted by Nancy Astor “In passing also, I would like to say that the first time Adam had a chance he laid the blame on the woman.”

Therefore the acknowledgement for her journey is never recognized rather criticized more. The reward is not big to give, a simple gesture of love makes a women smile. As in Winnie Pooh cartoons “the smallest things take up the most room in a heart.”

The people revolving around the woman never realize to bring a smile on her face. If she is a achiever then all the people around her will acknowledge her and start taking her share of success.

Husband will say she was given a free hand, children will say we did not bother our mom much in her journey, in-laws will say we did not bother her with household and family responsibilities. Even her own family will say we never discouraged our daughter.

In reality this is all fake. Out of many few would be helping the woman. Her immediate family will be the first one opposing her in the way of success. Then comes husband, children and in laws who from time to time would be taunting at her in different contrast.

In reality a woman is an achiever due to her skills of multitasking and management.

She wakes up early managing things for her children’s school, husband and in laws breakfast, and last of all delegating work to the maids.

Then she has her breakfast and gets ready to leave for work.

During work calls home for update of work and later go home with a fresh smile. Enters the kitchen for evening snacking and then sits for conversation with all the family respectively. Assists children in their homework and later goes with dinner arrangement.

In case if any guests are landing up manages without 0complain. If any guest praises the woman in charge, she gets to hear negativity too from her family, which she accepts with a clean smile.

The entire life she performs all her duties with a never ending list of complains, and negativity as a reward.

In Islam roles of woman are praised as follows:

 For Mothers: “And we have commanded man to be good towards parents; his mother bore him with hardship and delivered him with hardship..”

For Wives: “Treat women well and be kind to them; they are your partners and committed helpers.” Prophet Muhammed (PBUH)

For Daughters:“Whoever has daughters and treats them kindly, they will be a protection for him against the fire.” Prophet Muhammed (PBUH)

Marriage: “And among His signs is this that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest and peace of mind in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Certainly, herein indeed are signs for people who reflect” Quran 30:21.

These are the in scripts of our religion for woman, but from time to we forget about it.

Above all this one more fact that cannot be denied is that a woman becomes a woman enemy too…. in relation of in laws and as the second woman in her man’s life.

Despite being very fragile and weak, the woman faces bitterness of life strongly.

A loud shout can make her cry in less than a second. She gets hurt very easily but once she gathers her strength she is the strongest.

The hard fact each and every woman faces is of not having a permanent house.

At first she stays in her father’s house, then comes the husband’s house and at the end her son’s house.

 Even if she is gifted a house from her father, she will never be able to get it recognized cause it will hurt her husband’s ego.  If her husband gifts her a house then children will ask her for inheritance of the house.

At the end she ends up standing at a point where she is in a position not to complain.

As a woman I myself feel no matter how much you give to your family in return you never get the same…… Her credits are accepted by her own confidence, strength and the ability to stand on her own…

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